Emotion is what we feel immediately after an event, both positive and negative. Therefore, it is something natural, which happens to any human being and, many times, uncontrollable. Some emotions cause physical symptoms, such as rapid heart palpitations, fever, and even fainting.

When emotions are so negative, it is common for us to avoid their “triggers”. After a while, we avoid even any action that arouses the strongest emotions. Life ends up losing flavor. After all, to live is to feel.

The great advantage is that human beings are changeable and capable of developing throughout life. Therefore, from the moment we work on these emotions, we can create much healthier emotional patterns – and it’s never too late to take the first step. Here’s how to start this process.

The influence of thoughts

Emotions are voluntary and difficult to control because they are immediate, triggered by any trigger. But another factor that can be at least “tamed” and considerably influences our behavior is thinking. 

Let’s take an example: you really wanted a job vacancy. He went through all the stages, and he made an effort to offer the best throughout the process, but he couldn’t pass. As soon as you get the news, you feel frustrated. The problem is that, after two or three unsuccessful attempts, your thinking starts to be so negative that you think “It’s no use trying because I won’t succeed anyway”. With that, you simply stop trying. Every time you think of your dream job, the only emotion you feel is frustration.

A negative emotional pattern paralyzes you, and makes you stop chasing what you want, taking advantage of once-in-a-lifetime opportunities and meeting interesting people. So as soon as a negative thought comes, don’t feed it. Reflects.

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Identify the source and how thoughts affect you

Our experiences and experiences contribute to the construction of emotional patterns, which determine how we react and interpret what happens around us.

The pattern is repetitive behavior triggered by specific triggers. Therefore, to understand what the negative pattern of your emotions is, you need to understand what triggers it. 

For example, if someone makes a criticism and your reaction is always to be extremely defensive, reflect on why such a comment takes so much effort to preserve. Do you feel wronged? Did anything happen in the past that created this kind of “emotional shell”?

See the bright side of life

You will only learn to have a more positive emotional pattern if you notice the good in life. Otherwise, all effort will be for shallow behavior. 

See that those who are used to seeing the negative side of life rarely change their behavior. Even what is good is seen with fear, as if it had a “prick” of life behind it. This individual’s emotional pattern is always very defensive as if he was afraid to be happy.

Everything is a matter of taking the first step. In addition to self-reflection, stop around and see what’s good in your life: the people you love, the friends you’ve made throughout your life, the roof over your head, and the plate on the table. There are several reasons to be grateful. 

Practice meditative activities

When emotions dominate us, we lose our logical reasoning. They are physical, mental, and spiritual reactions in profusion that, if there is a repetitive behavior, will alienate the individual for much longer. Therefore, it is necessary to work on practices that can balance so much information at the same time.

Activities like meditation, yoga, tai chi chuan, and mindfulness help you connect with the present in a healthy way, allowing you to stay focused on what’s really important. In addition, they bring several benefits, both physical and mental and emotional.

face your fears

Defensive behavior, mental chaos, and limiting emotional patterns are often caused by the same emotion: fear. The main paralyzer, this feeling can indeed be good: it prevents us from putting our lives at risk and helps us to have criteria for the risks we are going to take. However, you need to reflect: is fear real or does it only exist in your head?

Many of our biggest fears simply don’t exist or are much smaller than they seem. Is it that bad to try that new hobby? Why does talking to that person seem so risky? Why is the other’s opinion so dangerous as to prevent you from conquering something new? Is calling that person you fought with for years going to do so much harm?

Many of the problems and fears will only go away when they are faced. But if it’s difficult to take that first step, ask for help. Therapy and support groups exist precisely to help you break through those bubbles that keep you from developing.

As seen, being in tune with your emotions is not only possible but essential for your quality of life.

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